As we age, we tend to get set in our ways. Rigid. Inflexible. Closed-minded. Callused. If we succumb to negativity too long, we become hags, nags, and drags. No man wants to come home to that. And you wouldn’t want inaugurated into Heartless Bitch International, would you?
Men, the apple doesn’t fall far from the sapless tree. If your wife or children have grumpy old man on their speed dial instead of your name, try making the shift from tyrant to tender. Your family deserves more TLC and less TNT. Lose the soapbox or Archie Bunker rhetoric and show some broad-minded mental and physical embraces.
Let the Big, Bad Wolf Huff and Puff all He Wants
When life throws bricks, use it to build a stronger house (like the smart third little pig did to fend off the Big, Bad Wolf), instead of losing your temper, your humor, or your nimbleness. Practice yoga, meditation, walks in the park, singing in the choir (or car), and unplugging from the world to help you regain your fluidity of mind.
What’s your secret to remaining more like a willow tree in the wind instead of petrified wood? Or do you play the victim card? Complain, whine, and verbally throw up on any one who will listen? (FYI: Here are five ways to avoid whiners and reasons why they habitually whine).
Mind Like Water
There’s a Zen saying, author David Allen of the famed book “Get Things Done” reminds us of, Mind Like Water.
In karate there is an image that’s used to define… “mind like water.” Imagine throwing a pebble into a still pond. How does the water respond? The answer is, totally appropriately to the force and mass of the input; then it returns to calm. It doesn’t overreact or underreact…
The power in a karate punch comes from speed, not muscle… So the high levels of training in the martial arts teach and demand balance and relaxation as much as anything else. Clearing the mind and being flexible is key.
How Will Your Obituary Read?
Part of my Damels in Success Webcast’s homework is writing your obituary. (Sign up now under my Webinar tab, it’s April 12th at 6 PM CST).
What will your obit say? “She was always smiling and laughing regardless of what life threw at her” or “She was a woman that saw things her way or the highway. You didn’t dare cross her without losing a body limb or your life.”
What’s your take on this subject? Are you getting better with age or more bitter and disconnected with your family and social network? What makes you smile and reach out? What makes you tense and lash out?
Why so deep, Brenda? A yoga questionnaire I filled out this week spurred this blog. It asked how my practice has made me a better person, how I’m giving back to the world, and a dozen other important questions I encourage you to consider the first two with me. Let me know your answers, I love to hear from each and every one of you. Pretty please, be kind and chime in. It makes my day!
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