How to Get Back in the Dating Saddle Again in Midlife
Are you one of the 55 million singles who will sit home tonight and stroke your keyboard? May I propose something novel and very old school? Ask someone out. It’s not hard. You just dial the phone and say, hey Sam, let’s grab a movie or a drink. Then you shower, dress, leave the house and have a blast.
Ride Sally, Ride. Your true soulmate is out there.
Try Badoo like I did to check out an entirely different dating pool and market given Kansas City has one of the worst dating markets in the country. Here’s the link for the bold Monas who wanna get back in the saddle.
Find a new adventure with new people around you!
Unfortunately this is no longer the norm. Tonight 5.5 million singles will go online and hide behind their computers because it’s anonymous, safe, easy, and nine times out of 10 just a big time suck. For many single surfers, it becomes a hobby in voyeurism rather than a bridge to bonding, meeting, marveling, and perhaps mating.
The Dating Goddess at Delicious Adventures in Dating After 40 compares online dating to a sushi bar. She says you sit comfortably and watch the dishes go by and pick what looks appealing. She nails it by summarizing the online experience below.
“Having this unending flow may make you pickier, as you know what you do and don’t want. The problem can be what you want isn’t on the conveyor belt. Perhaps you want — really want — tacos. But you’re at a sushi bar. No matter how long you wait, you’re never going to find what you’re looking for.”
Facebook servers will be humming tonight for those singles that are dateless and choose not to log onto Match, eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, Christian Mingles, and 1500 online dating sites. Not surprisingly many love affairs are igniting on Facebook with single women and men finding past loves or missed opportunities.
I’m all for scoring digitally as long as the computer is used as a catalyst to getting up close and personal not a barrier to entry so to speak. Touch is an important component to our well being. However, being glued to a screen instead of someone’s sexy mouth or eyes is a poor choice.
Our lack of touch, connection, and social skills could actually hinder our ability to hook up. When we finally get back out into the real dating scene, we stumble, slur our words and choke. Social media doesn’t replace social skills.
And interactivity on the net can lead to a touch-starved world of singles. If you’re single when’s the last time you held someone’s hand, hugged someone of the opposite sex, cuddled, or kissed someone so passionately that you felt like crème brulee? Facebook can’t replace these feelings or needs.
So tonight don’t even touch your computer. It’s over stimulated any way. Go someplace people rich, mingle, talk, touch, and re-engage in life the 20th century way.
Wouldn’t you rather play footsie than Facebook?
Mona Lisa would be with Leonardo not her Dell. Who will you be with tonight?
Find a new adventure with new people around you!
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Category: Men & Dating
I channel Dharma, Meg Ryan and Erma Bombeck while helping boomers find their groove and mojo. Light some incense, drink wine, bang your drum and love this part of your life with all your soul. It's time to shake you Boho bon bons honey.
Perhaps my little black dog Oscar but than I’m 71 and counting. But maybe its not too late for me.
It is very difficult to get back into the dating game after a divorce. It is so different at an older age, then it was in the teens and 20′s. The good news is that everyone is a lot more mature with a little bit more wisdom under their belt. With that said, I think dating at an older age can be much more enjoyable than it was in the younger years. Just have to bite the bullet, get out there, and try it!
Teresa, I absolutely agree. I find I’m more tuned into finding a mate than having a fun, which of course can be highly counterproductive to the process of dating. But it is a blessing to known what we know now, including more about ourselves and what and whom makes us happy. So you know you are not alone in this, here is a link to 51 blogs about dating after divorce….http://www.divorcelawyers.org/51-blogs-with-tips-for-dating-after-divorce/. Enjoy and thanks for chiming in! Happy dating.