This year I’ve polled lots of older men about who they date. These highly eligible boomer bachelors say age is not the deal breaker, weight is.
The successful, handsome, fit men in their 50s and 60s that I’ve cornered to pick their brains say they prefer to date age appropriate women, but refuse to date women who are fat. There I said it.
Before you send me hate mail, consider this. Your age is out of your control, your weight is not. It may be easier for some middle-aged women because of genetics, height, or an over-active thyroid but it’s still within your control.
Inactivity Leads to Weight Gain All the Time vs. Menopause
Hormonal roller coasters aren’t fun but thanks to bio-identical hormones, it’s fairly fixable. I know “keeping one’s self up” is practically a full-time job in mid-life, but the rewards are worth it. I also know our lives tilt toward being sedentary not active as we get older and the price is weight gain.
When I asked a trainer how to drop my extra tonnage, he told me to push back the plate and hit the weights. It was painfully effective. If you’re feeling hopelessly flab at 50, check out this video of the 20 most sexy women over 50 for inspiration.
The very fit man, of 59 who I’m currently dating runs marathons, plays golf without a cart, bypasses booze, eats lots of fish and forgoes fries. His flat stomach and intellect attracted me, pushing his age out of my mind.
When I asked him if his golf buddies were tubby and what their wives looked like, he said they were fit and their wives hit more martinis than gyms and sported physiques that were more Hardy than Laurel.
His words not mine.
Tipping the Dating Scales in Your Favor
If you’re a woman of a certain age who is starting over, you can tip the dating scales in your favor by picking an activity that you love. By dropping those extra pounds, you level the playing field with that visual species called man.
Dating coach for smart, strong, successful woman, Evan Marc Katz, puts it this way:
I bet that even the most non-judgmental guy around would say that he wants a mind, soul, and body connection – but only if she takes care of her body.
4 Easy Ways to Get the Body of a 30 Year Old (or less)
If you’re a born athlete who loves to scale mountains or run marathons, chances are you can still bounce a quarter off your butt. However, if you consider frosting a cake aerobic exercise, you might need to increase your activity level a touch in midlife. Here’s my favorite ways to drop fat in not time flat.
YOGA – It’s not surprising that many midlife boomettes turn to the mat to combat the fat. It doesn’t hurt your knees and the variations make it possible for any body to do some form of the asana. Dr. Sarah Kucera of Sage Center for Yoga and Healing Arts says no more than 5% of her clientele are over weight (30 pounds or more). Kucera says because her students, many who are middle aged and up, are committed to their health. Sarah’s yogi followers attend classes religiously and are committed to their health. It shows.
PILATES – Pilates helps you gain muscle mass in spades. It strengthens your core and helps you return to your lean, mean, fighting machine physique like Tina Sprinkle did. The reason women get mad at their mates when they both go on diets together, is men drop weight quickly and women usually not so much. More muscles mean a soaring metabolism, meaning calories burn off you even when you rest. Plus women I know doing a Pilates trampoline/reformer routine say it feel like play, not work. Try it.
TENNIS – Chasing that little fuzzy yellow ball around is so much fun, it doesn’t feel like exercise. Plus when you take a few lessons and final learn how to smash an overhead, you’ll be hooked. If you weigh 160 pounds, you can burn 564 calories an hour of playing singles. And you won’t be able to resist booking three more matches that week because it’s so addicting.
WALKING – It’s so easy. Just roll out of bed, throw on some shoes and walk. Flash forward, one hour later, and you’ve burned 314 calories and probably solved world hunger or numerous other problems by having an hour of silence to really let your mind go to work without interruption. Yum.
How do you feel about your body? What’s your exercise routine? Are men shallow? Is your mate tubby or fit? Do you care? Please comment below.
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